A few Sundays ago, while flipping through the coupon section for food and sundry items I don’t need or necessarily want, I ran into an awesome ad for Jello pudding snacks. I would like to share it with you.

The Funenst Way to Svae a Litlte Duogh.

JELL-O has cobmined yuor favotire puddnigs wiht yuor fvaorite topipngs to craete yuor faovirte desesrt. And jsut lkie you cannto beelive yuor eeys wihle you are raednig tihs, you wlil nto bleeive yuor tnogue wehn you tsate the six mnid-bolwnig flvaors of JELLO-O with mix-ins, like Brithday Ckae, OREO Drit Cup and Trutle Snudae. And as if ttah is not enoguh, use tihs couopn and yuor walelt wlil nto beleive waht a dael it is gtteing ethier. So get yuor sicssors, dsah dwon to the stroe and pcik up a fuor-pcak today. Becuase wehn you mix thnigs up, all knids of fun sutff happnes.

Even though most words are misspelled, you can read it. Right? As an English teacher, I would show something similar to this to my students to point out that our brains instinctively rearrange letters to look like what the word should be. That is an important detail to be aware of when proofreading and editing what we have written; we need to have others look at our writing, too. (Sometimes the students used this as an excuse for misspellings, but that did not fly in my classroom!)

Believe it or not, this is relevant to Collaborative law. When we are in a grief and/or anger situation, we speak. The problem is, sometimes what we want to say, or think we are saying, comes out differently than it sounds in our minds. My parents passed away a little over three months apart, and I went back to work fairly soon. Even though I felt like I was doing just fine, others around me noticed that I seemed “far away.”

Divorce is an intense situation like a death, and we may be “far away” and not realize it. That’s where the professionals involved can take the garbled, intensely emotional words spoken by people involved in divorce disputes and “translate” them into language that says what is meant. They can bring calmness to the situation so that effective communication can occur, ensuring that the intended outcome will be the best for all concerned. They have the ability to hear and read what is said, even when it is not said clearly.

The more I am around the Collaborative professionals, the more impressed I am by their commitment to their clients and the calm, caring environments they help create. They work hard to take the ucenarl and make it clear.

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