Marjorie James


I promised that, if I could find something about cats to match my “Dog are Miracles with Paws”, I would share it. Well, I found some sayings and “cat proverbs” from many cultures at a website,, dedicated “to the animals we love.”

There is no snooze button on a cat who wants breakfast. Never feed your cat anything that doesn’t match the carpet. A cat’s motto is, “No matter what you have done wrong, always try to make it look as if the dog did it.” Anything on the ground is a cat toy; anything not there yet, will be. Everyone knows cats are on a higher level of existence; these silly humans are just too big-headed to admit their inferiority. Some people have cats and go on to lead normal lives; people who do not have cats have no life.

It is better to feed one cat than many mice. The dog may be wonderful prose, but only the cat is poetry. A cat is a lion in a jungle of small bushes. You will always be lucky if you know how to make friends with strange cats.

Notice the contrast in attitude between the dog quotes and the cat quotes. I have heard it said that dogs have owners, but cats have staff.

I interviewed Mike Fancher, a Collaborative family lawyer at Seattle Divorce Services about divorce and pets. He said that, in his experience, only a few percent of divorces include disputes over pets. Most couples are able to work out the pet situation, with is included in the property distribution, on their own.

However, once in a while, there is conflict which requires Collaboration. Sometimes, couples need to work out details about the ongoing care of the pet and what the shared contact agreement will be. For many couples, especially those without children, pets are like a child. Both people are attached to their pet and are trying to work out a “doggie parenting plan.”

From a financial point of view, attention needs to be paid to how the costs associated with pets, especially if they are older, will be divided. Usually the person who takes the pet is responsible for the care and feeding costs. However, even that must be discussed, especially when children are seen as the recipient of the pet. They may feel that “It’s the kids’ dog, so the costs are an extension of child support.”

Once again, Collaboration is the way to go.

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