Marjorie JamesThe holidays are over. Presents have been wrapped and opened, way too much food has been prepared and eaten, and decorations have been put up and taken down. Life is getting back to normal, whatever that is.

For many people, the last week of the year is the time to take a deep breath, analyze their lives, and make promises to themselves about the coming year. We call them “resolutions.” If everyone who resolved to lose weight, eat healthier, exercise more, go back to college, read those long books sitting on the shelf (or on our Kindles), clean out the closets, or paint the living room had kept the resolutions, we would be a skinnier, healthier, incredibly well-educated people living in organized, freshly decorated homes!

I don’t like to make resolutions at New Year’s for a couple of reasons. One, I know myself well enough to realize that I will, for most part, settle back into the life I love just the way it is, even if it means keeping these pounds around my middle.

Two, resolutions can put us into a box, defining what will either make us happy or miserable in the coming year. I don’t like to be in a box. Who knows what life could be if I will just step out and make it happen? I will make commitments toward do-able goals, but I don’t want to trivialize what I can accomplish through “resolutions” that are vague or unrealistic.

For some of you, this is your first New Year’s in a long time as a single. Others of us have had a good friend pass away recently, a dear neighbor move away, a child leave for his or her first year of college, or a radical change like retirement come into our lives. We all face a big unknown, 2014, that beckons for us to follow. How will you answer? How will I?

I came across a statement of truth that I think we all need to remember, even if we have not had a life-altering event in the past year.

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.

Why don’t we all start 2014 with a commitment to make a “new ending”? We cannot go back and redo last year, but we sure can bring about incredibly positive outcomes next year. Let’s go!!

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