Marjorie JamesWe are one month into 2014, and somehow things seem an awful lot like they were last year! There are still wars, the weather is still causing problems in the Midwest and along the East Coast, and there are people still unemployed and hungry. In the midst of all this, those of you who were in the process of divorce last year are still there. If you were divorced last year, you are still alone, and you and your children are still adjusting to your new reality. Even with the assistance of Collaborative professionals, life is tougher than you would like it to be.

My, this is a “gloom and doom” way to start! So sorry, but keep reading and you will see where I am going with this.

Even if our circumstances do not change, we can change our reaction. I read a quote on Facebook that I want to share with you. Not all quotes on Facebook are true or necessarily make sense, but this one brings up a good point. “Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass; it is about learning to dance in the rain.”

For those of us who live in western Washington, dancing in the rain can be a lot of fun and an easy thing to do. After all, we are told it rains a lot around here! I usually don’t notice unless the rain is pouring down in big drops, but the meteorologists still record it all. When we dance in the rain, we let go of things like staying dry or maintaining our hairdo. We let go!

Children have this down to an art. Have you ever noticed that mud puddles must be stomped in, dandelions must be picked and made into a bouquet for Mom, and fuzzy woolies need to be picked up and allowed to crawl on an arm? When I was young and living in the South, a whole evening could be taken up catching lightning bugs and putting them in a canning jar. Releasing them all at once created a delightful burst of “light.”

In the midst of pain, we need time when our focus is not on the pain but on dancing. The next time it is raining, or snowing if you are in “snow country”, go outside with the express purpose of dancing. Throw your arms out, lift your face to the sky, and twirl! The smile and giggles will follow. Neighbors will either think you are crazy or come out and join you! We are never too old to enjoy life as it comes and put problems in the background, even if just for a few moments.

Do the problems or pain go away? Of course not! They are real and need to be addressed. However, we need to be able to see what life brings to us along the way and make joy a goal. Collaborative counselors can help you cope in such a way that dancing and snow angels can become part of your life again.

Life is not about waiting; it is about dancing!

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